One simple trick to have good dates

Sun Aug 30 2026

I think men (maybe both men and women, but I can only speak for men) stress too much about how to go on a date.

I know a friend who has a "playbook" for dates: he's optimised the exact restaurant to bring the girl (same restaurant every time), walk the same route after back home etc. Yeah, if you do that, you're going to hate dating, obviously.

Here's one simple trick that helped me a lot:

Instead of thinking of a date as an audition, where you think "what would she like to do", think, "what would I like to do", and invite her along!

Go to a restaurant that YOU want to go. Do an activity that YOU want to do. And then just invite her along!

OK, some caveats are in order here: to be clear, it's probably not a good idea to bring her to your weekly FNM (the smell can be quite something). But you contain multitudes, right? Go do something that you've always wanted to try but never did.